I’m tired of men trying to change me to be more like a “woman” and embrace my femininity by wearing more feminine clothing on daily basis (I’m a tall pant suit person with a strong gothic look, deal with it) and be more “normal”. I can be quite dorky in person and stroll around at home wearing a panda suit. I don’t go out partying and do dancing. I prefer to stay at home sewing, reading, working and writing even on my days off (yes, I’m so boring). I need a lot of personal space alone to be able to concentrate on my hobbies and work, I have strong opinions and I’m not afraid to speak my mind in a polite manner.
Where do I find men that are mentally strong and well-balanced enough to deal with a strong female and appreciate the strength?
Ah well, I think I’m too young to hurry when it comes to this anyway, but just wondering..
I think I saw a picture on your facebook or something of a medical procedure (maybe on a cat). I don't remember much about it, but it gave me the impression you were studying medicine. Yet that seems difficult to do while running your business Rosa Nitida. How do you balance your life?
Thank you for your message.
I have indeed worked on a dental/medical field before as a dental assistant (I assist in surgeries, implants etc. but also do braces and teeth whitenings, book keeping and IT for smaller dental practices). I don’t have education on medical field, but I have several years of experience working in a hospital in Finland and had a lot of passion in medical studies before (as I wanted to study medicine - however, I found my passion in arts instead) which why I got the jobs. For now due to several circumstances in my life I cannot make a living out of Rosa Nitida, but I’m working on several projects to grow my business and hopefully in couple of years I’m able to say that my business is what keeps me floating not only financially but also mentally (as it is my passion to share beautiful things with people).
I was supposed to start with Rosa Nitida projects 1,5 years ago, but as my life changed drastically (and not in a good way) I wasn’t able to do that until just recently. I’m now working on a proper web site, a first proper collection etc. so I hope to be able to show everyone soon what I’m really capable of doing. There are so many things that I would like to share with people. :)
I hope you have a pleasant day!
Sorry for asking a personal question, but I've been your fan for around 2 years now and always womdered how you got your boyfriends(or even girlfriends, you mentioned once).I mean, you always seemed to have same personality as me-dedicated for studies and work,artistic, hardworking, intellectual,introvertial(maybe I'm wrong, I dont know you personally^^)so I was wondering,how did you actually meet all those people?i know a few bfs of yourse were assholes, but still.how did u find "each other"?:D
Thank you for your incredibly kind message. I’m indescribably flattered by your sweetness. Thank you for your kind words. *major blush*
Well, that is actually a very good question because the way I meet people varies a lot. I meet people in real life, through friends and quite often online through just exchanging thoughts with people in general and sometimes everything just “clicks” together the right way. I’m indeed quite a busy person in general and I like to spend time alone (and yes, I can be quite introvert as well) a lot of the time, but I like people and I’m very curious to meet new personalities despite of me being often reserved and everything. However, I have always had a strong need to love and to be loved, and I feel like I need that “someone special” by my side who I can take care of, love and support in every level of life (I think that can be such a precious thing between two people). Then, in the other hand, I feel totally fine being living my life alone as well without too much pressure about finding a life partner - things happen if they happen and I’m actually very picky of the people I date and put the most value on the personality and values.
Yes, actually, after I broke up with my ex boyfriend couple of months ago (5 months or so), I have met someone again who I feel like I could have a future with. :) I just can’t describe by words how lucky I feel to have met such a caring and intelligent person. However, the problem is that he lives basically on the other side of the world, so future plans for such things as being together at some point need to be made and worked on. We are going to take things day by day without too much rushing.
I hope this was descriptive enough although I don’t really have any more descriptive stories to share with you. :’3
I hope you have a wonderful day!
Best wishes and many hugs,
What I wrote on Facebook:
”Seriously, what is wrong with people!? I was startled by a group of Moroccan men that decided to jump infront of me and pretend to hit me by just waving their arms around in the air, yelling and calling me Dracula etc. I think my heart skipped a beat that time…
Otherwise I would had left the situation as it was, but as they were with children who were laughing at the whole situation while I was holding my chest because of the pain I got from being startled like that (Like my heart wasn’t weak enough already!), I couldn’t just leave it there. So, I threatened them with a police unless they apologized me - and they did.
I’m usually very calm, understanding and kind, but this time I got really mad.. Believe me, you don’t want to see me getting angry. The last time I was this angry was many years ago, but this time what caused me to get to this state was the fact that these still innocent children would get affected by adults that way. It’s just purely wrong! Geez.”
”The thing that they did was pure violence towards the children which I cannot forgive“
“I also heard from my Dutch friend how there is a theory of how the Dutch immigration system failed. Immigration can be a good thing, but it can go wrong so badly which has actually happened in Finland as well. People know how to take an advantage of the very generous and forgiving system there.
I know many really nice Moroccans too, but in general they are a huge problem. A bit like Somalians in Finland and Sweden. And I’m not a racist either, but this is the unfortunate truth that the criminal statistics show us. Also tells a lot about our immigration systems failing in a way or another.”
“ Also, in St. Petersburg Gay people aren’t allowed to even hold their hands in public without getting a ticket or being thrown behind the bars.
(Talking about how people’s first impression of Amsterdam is usually that this is a really open minded place for “different” people:) Yan, that was my first thought as well about Amsterdam (all the legal weed and gay culture), but no, it’s absolutely awful here sometimes. I thought the Russians in Helsinki are bad before I moved here and to imagine that it can be even worse.. Makes me kind of disappointed in people.”
“What my Mom usually says when something like this happens only proves the stupidity of a lot of people: “It’s your own fault because you look like that.”“
“Although I’m originally from Finland, I haven’t really met more than couple of nasty Finns (they are usually Russians that harass people in Helsinki) while in the short period of time that I’ve spent in Amsterdam I have encountered dozens and dozens of nasty foreigners… O.o It’s really interesting how countries can differ this much.”
“It’s like people’s way of thinking isn’t always on the same phase of intelligence with the law. And sometimes the other way around.”
”This happens almost every day to me by the way.”
Someone here is still mad here thinking about those poor little kids.. ;___;
Immigration system in The Netherlands, and many other countries has failed and this is only one of the many examples to prove that. The systems have to change in a way or another and they need to be improved because this is not working for me and for so many others.